Eat, Love, Pray, Choose Joy: God got me covered.

“Her husband is here”, i heard a nurse say in my drug induced haze. I had wanted to pee, so i had staggered slowly into the bathroom. I didn’t think i needed help, so i didn’t call for a nurse. I had overestimated my balance, so as i was walking back to my bed in the pre-surgical cubicle, I felt myself free falling and he caught me. “Help me lift her”, i heard him say to the nurses as i blacked out, only to come -to minutes later, after being resuscitated.

Have you found out what is wrong with her, Bode (my husband) asked the doctor, who told him we had to wait for the results.

Timeline : January 24/2017
I had called him at about 1.30 pm asking if he could get off work early to go and pick the kids (our son and our god-children). His tone told me, he was not in the mood for my “Get-out- of- school runs” tactics. But he paused when he heard me catch my breath. I blurted out, “I’m in a lot of pain”, when he asked me what was wrong.
I was having my braids taken out, when the worst pain i’ve ever felt hit me. I broke out in cold sweat, i thought it was horrible case of food poisoning, i asked for a glass of water, i could barely drink it, i wobbled to the toilet. I groaned and pushed and hoped whatever was in me would come out. The pain got worse, it was worse than labour pains {i’ve been in labour twice, so i know the pains of labour}. I was hot and cold at the same time. I stripped completely, doubled over from the pain, then i called him, my voice broke into a sob as i tried to put words to what i was feeling.

He got off the phone and called his mum to go and get me. My parents in law were in my apartment in less than 2 mins (they live in front of my house). “Labake, o kin sick, kilo se e” – Labake you are rarely ill what is wrong-, MIL said. I couldn’t speak, i could manage tears and i gesticulated. “E bami wo so fun” -Help me put clothes on her- she told my staff who were there with me.
Daddy went to get his keys, before i got out, he had started the car ready to take me to the hospital. Typically, Dad’s fastest speed is 60km/hr. On this day he drove like a maniac, we made it to a 20min drive hospital in 10mins!
I told the nurse at the reception, i’m in a lot of pain. They swiftly sprung to action, the doctors were by my side, set an IV line, gave me pain meds that knocked me, took blood work and ordered tests, by now i was drifting in and out of a meds induced sleepy haze. The sonographer, told me it looked like i had a twisted cyst but it shouldn’t cause me that much pain or make me bleed.
That morning after my regular fitness walk, i had noticed i was bleeding so i assumed it was my period, so i cleaned up, put on a sanitary towel and took a nap.

A more senior doctor came back into the ward and said to my husband and i, “We have to do an emergency Exploratory Laparotomy, your pregnancy result came back positive, you have Ruptured Ectopic Pregnancy that’s why you are bleeding and you are in a lot of pain.”

An ectopic pregnancy occurs when the fertilized egg attaches itself in a place other than inside the uterus. Almost all ectopic pregnancies occur in the fallopian tube and are thus sometimes called tubalpregnancies.

“Pregnant!!” Bode (my husband) and I exclaimed together! How was that even possible? I still took a pregnancy test the week before, it was negative, how is it even possible?


Since we resumed trying to conceive (TTC) after losing a pregnancy in 2014, I’ve been doing pregnancy tests religiously on a weekly basis. Firstly because of the treatment plan i was on, then for the heck of it and also because i occasionally indulge in liqueur. And yet I didn’t even know i was pregnant. In fact i had gone 2 weeks before for my routine check up with my doctor and i had a routinely done a blood PT.

While the doctor spoke i realized my tummy had doubled in size and it was uncomfortable, the pain was subliminal, and i was woozy. I would later find out that the increase in size was due to my bleeding internally. I looked at my palms and realized my palms were pale!

The team was called, gyne-surgeon, general surgeon, the anesthesiologist (a wonderful pleasant woman), nurses, and others, the blood bank…
By 9pm i was taken to the theater (I had to wait for a set of twin boys to be delivered by emergence CS and brought out of the OR).
I came out 3+hrs and 4 pints of blood transfusion later, with a PCV of 21 looking like something out of “Greys Anatomy” with all the gadgets hanging on my body.
I opened my eyes at about 2am, saw my sweet darling with his head on a desk, trying to catch a nap, he woke up as soon as i stirred, told me i had to lie still on my back for about 8hrs/12hrs or so. He kept an eye on my fluids, my temperature with was low, and he kept adjusting the cooling system. I felt sorry for him.
He told me later he had been invited into the surgery and he froze at the sight of my insides open like a butchered cow on the operating table. They wanted him to know they also took out the cysts i had in my ovary
So now his favorite saying is , “I know you inside out, you that i’ve seen your intestines”. So he calls me “Intestines” sometimes!
The doctors estimated the gestation period of the fetus based on its size at 8-10wks. Trapped in my fallopian tube till it grew too big to grow there. A baby i didn’t even know was there, never had time to bond with, had to be yanked out with parts of me, to save my life, leaving scars behind.

I didn’t even have time to process any emotions, it was a roller coaster of so many all at once, trumped by the greater desire to live and not die.

Support System

Through all of this my amazing support system kicked in. My friend Marie got off work and went to pick the kids from school, my sister Fifi and my bro-in-law Theo, were in the hospital shortly after my husband arrived and they didn’t leave until 2am. My bff Olajumoke (JBK) called a circle of sisters whom we pray together and raised prayers for me, she was in the hospital with my favorite Pastor Kenny at close of work.
At 6.30am my mum was by my side from Ibadan with my brother in tow, my dad who was on the phone with me at least three times a day.
My amazing parents in laws who took shifts checking on me through my 1 week + stay in the hospital, bringing food and love. They had our son with them throughout the time, woke up early to get him ready in time for school and pack his lunch, checked homework. My sweet sweet son Mumila, who though didn’t have a full grasp of what was happening always asked to stop by the hospital to check on mama and pray for me.
My friends, Jumoke Leo, Mojola, Bunmi, who literally flew to my side when they heard 2 days later.
Dunni (Dooneyrooney), she said, all i can think of right now is that your family would need food while you are convalescing. She ordered 5 different types of soups in 7 litres and spicy hot pepper soup from a Nigerian food business and had it delivered to me. Her mum even came to visit.
Many more people i can’t readily recall. The calls, the messages, the love. Priceless.

My amazing staff who kept business running seamlessly and diligently whist i was away.
The wonderful team in the hospital

My priceless, priceless husband Olabode. Can’t put to words how much of a rock, a pillar and support you were to me while we had to both go through the difficult times.


God had my back

After my ordeal some things started making sense to me. I’m a person of faith and i believe in Jesus, my religious expression is Christianity.

  • In December 2016, my friend Shalewa called me. She relayed a weird encounter her sister Bolanle had the day before to me. Bolanle, had gone for a prayer vigil (in Abuja where they live), whilst at the vigil, the presiding pastor called her out and asked if she knew anyone called Labake. She answered that though she didn’t have a friend called Labake, but her sister’s friend bore the name. She said the pastor asked the congregation to pray to avert any evil concerning Labake and gave her the instruction to call me to pray. I thanked Shalewa, said a little prayer of thanksgiving and protection and trusted that God had heard me.
  • On my birthday January 10th 2017, i had gone to drop my son and was heading off to a business fellowship, when my friend Aisha, turned back sharply and grabbed my arm. She looked uncomfortable while she was trying to say something to me. She said “Labake, i don’t know what is making me do this, i never do this, but i feel strongly that you should wait and pray at the altar before you go”. I said I’m going to fellowship I’d pray there. She said, do it now! Truth is, first i woke up that day feeling “bleh” in spite of it being my birthday, i struggled to get in high spirits. Secondly, I’ve always believed going to a church altar to pray was ceremonial and unnecessary. But i did nonetheless, i broke into tears when i got to the altar, poured out my heart, my pain and gave thanks. ( School is Church owned and so church is right opposite the school) I felt relieved and my spirit was lifted and i headed to fellowship. A special prayer of preservation was said for celebrants that day.
  • January 14th at the Leaders meeting for a small prayer circle i belong, the leader, called me out and asked the other sisters to start to pray for me. I can’t remember what she said but it bordered around safety, protection, mercy etc.

It was when I got home after the admission, and I was tearfully reading my daily confession from Isaiah 60: 1 – 22. I particularly broke in to tears when I read verse 17b- 18

17 b) I will also make your officers peace,
And your magistrates righteousness.
18) Violence shall no longer be heard in your land,
Neither wasting nor destruction within your borders;
But you shall call your walls Salvation,
And your gates Praise.

I was angry, that after believing and confessing these words, God would allow me to suffer the loss of a pregnancy again and this time, a Fallopian tube as well. Then all of these events made sense. I could have easily died, ectopic pregnancy accounts for many maternal mortalities. God kept me for a purpose. God had my back all along! He actually kept his word.
This helped to strengthen me during the course of 2017, when i had to face other challenges in 2017, even when i was down and low and shut down, the assurance that God had me covered gave me strength.

Towards the end of the 2017, I realized how much i had let things get to me, i didn’t know i shoved and bottled things, left it unprocessed. I realized that the hopeless optimist i was, had given room to negativity guised as reality.
I was looking for the happy-go-lucky girl who never really worried about a thing. I tried not to dream too much for the fear of having my hopes dashed. I let the year and all the misadventure that came with it get to me!
Then I remembered how i started my year, how God had my back, then it opened my eyes to see how he did still, in the midst of it all.
It was while I was convalescing, that i finished filling and submitted my Tony Elumelu application, i was selected and became a fellow, later in the year. My business misadventures led me to a new model and structure and pushed me out of what I’ve always known. I wore the strong woman toga, while i let my weakness almost cripple me on the inside.

With the realization that God always had my back, I walked my way back to deliberately choose Joy.

So this year I celebrated my birthday on a high! I’m walking on sunshine through this year.

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So I’d EAT, LOVE, PRAY, CHOOSE JOY, because GOD got me

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33 thoughts on “Eat, Love, Pray, Choose Joy: God got me covered.

  1. Olajumoke January 17, 2018 / 1:25 pm

    *wipes tears*

    Don’t know what to say…. You are a strong woman babe! 2018 is your year of restoration!


    • Ounje January 17, 2018 / 6:38 pm

      Amen in Jesus name! Thanks boo


  2. Adaeze38 January 17, 2018 / 2:08 pm

    Thank God for His faithfulness to you. He is so awesome and worthy of our praise. You will continue to celebrate many more birthdays in Jesus name. Amen


  3. Drjairho's Mémoires&Musings January 17, 2018 / 3:05 pm

    You really want to make me cry. Four units of blood. My good God!!! You were indeed brought out from the valley if the shadow of death. And God really confirms his word to his children. And his covenant with you, he will not break neither will he alter that which is gone forth out of his mouth. You are indeed the beloved of the Most High.
    Please tell Uncle Bode that I said thank you and thank you indeed. May our sons be the man he is and ten times more.
    You are indeed loved beyond measure.


    • Ounje January 17, 2018 / 6:37 pm

      Amen, thanks for the prayers and the kind words hun


  4. Ifey January 17, 2018 / 3:21 pm

    I love love this your story. Keep on winning sis. Greater you in Jesus name.


  5. Uchay Ifediniru-Onuakalusi January 17, 2018 / 4:35 pm

    God got your back through it All! I thank him for you. And he shall give you double for all the troubles in Jesus name. Amen!


  6. Olubunmi Ajai January 17, 2018 / 6:18 pm

    Wow! I cannot imagine a world without Labake Bode Matthew. I thank God for keeping you.


    • Ounje January 17, 2018 / 6:35 pm

      These are such kind words, i’m humbled. Thank you sis!


  7. Olufemi Akinsanya January 17, 2018 / 6:32 pm

    Your voice is sound, speaks deep truths and resonates with gratitude for life. Reading about your experience fills me with peace, hope and an assurance of His continued mercy.

    Thank you for speaking and sharing your truth Omolabake 🌻.


  8. Alo Toyin January 17, 2018 / 7:38 pm

    Heavenly Father, thank you for your daughter, thank you for being there for her always.Remain Strong and joyful,He’s got you covered


  9. Ihuoma January 17, 2018 / 7:43 pm

    Amazing testimony. Thank God for your life.


  10. Isokan January 17, 2018 / 8:02 pm

    Omolabambam mi, mo ba e yo. Congratulations on overcoming. The devil tried multiple times but failed. It’s good to know you’re doing much better. God be with you and the family. 2018 will definitely be a better year. Much love babe.


  11. Yetunde Adeloye January 17, 2018 / 8:21 pm

    He is a faithful God and he will always look upon you with his eyes of mercy.


  12. Jumoke Leo Adeosun January 17, 2018 / 8:42 pm

    Omolabake mi …
    Like I said to you then, I will say to you now; Oluwa o ni fi ikan gba ikan lowo wa. (God will not take one away just to give us another one) AMEN.
    Remember … we see them in the STARS.
    2018 will birth all It’s blessings unto you darling.


  13. Oluwafoyekemi January 17, 2018 / 8:53 pm

    Wow!!!! I thank God for your life Labake, I know God will perfect all that concerns you… it is well with you and yours.


  14. Awele January 17, 2018 / 9:17 pm

    Oh wow. It is indeed well with you. I pray God continues his good deeds in you life. Victory shall be yours always. My God continue to reveal himself to you always. There was nothing like family and good friends.
    I don’t know you personally, but your story moved me. Ithank God for saving you. It’s not everyone who goes through what you went through that can come and tell the story.
    God bless you and yours x


  15. Olabimpe Tejumola January 17, 2018 / 9:35 pm

    In spite of it all you are still living and standing. Despite going through all these you still took good care of me and my belle. Am certain that EFFORTLESSLY your babies are coming forth because sweets its double for your trouble. God bless your kind and strong heart dear.


  16. Lucy Odogwu January 17, 2018 / 10:11 pm

    Our God is an awesome God! Thank God for your live. He will continually keep and protect you and all yours. Happy birthday!


  17. lifegiversdailybread January 17, 2018 / 11:01 pm

    See, darkness covers the earth and thick darkness is over the peoples, but the Lord rises upon you (Mrs Labake) and his glory appears over you. Nations will come to your light, and kings to the brightness of your dawn.
    Isaiah 60:12-‬3 NIV. The Lord has already gone before you in 2018, be at peace sis. Isaiah 45:3


  18. Lanre Akinkugbe -Ogunyemi January 18, 2018 / 6:45 am

    My labake oh my labake. Words fail me. I have known you since primary school you have always been a strong woman. You are doing so well. The Lord will give you beauty for ashes darling. Better days ahead. Beautiful testimonies too. Much love.


  19. kitanmi January 18, 2018 / 7:06 am

    He always has our back..its in His nature to be faithful and true.. Thank you for sharing this.. He will yet visit you with your hearts desire. He sure will.


  20. Olatoro January 18, 2018 / 1:24 pm

    My darling Labake, hhhmmmm…
    Thank God we never look like the crazy phases we have been through!
    His Grace eternally abounds in your life.
    Love and Laughter always…


  21. Bolatito Akinpelu Folahan January 18, 2018 / 2:08 pm

    Oh Lord,our God we thank u.Oh Lord,our God we thank u.Oh Lord our God we thank u.We thank u,we thank u,we thank u.Thank God for His mercy.Omolabake Bode-Metthew,Isaiah 65v20-24 is your portion IJMN


  22. Adaeze January 19, 2018 / 9:19 am

    It can only be God, he just wanted you to know that he is God and always fulfills his promises to his chosen one, Sis Labake you are blessed and God gat you any day any time. May his mercy and grace upon your life be with you and your family everyday of your life in Jeusu name, Amen. Thank you and God for the testimony. Wow. God alone is great.


    • Ounje January 21, 2018 / 3:33 pm

      Amen in Jesus name. Thank you so much


  23. Stella Uju Ojuade January 19, 2018 / 10:18 pm

    Hmmm…the phases of motherhood could be traumatizing at times but God’s got our backs…always! I’ve been there. Mine was losing a child at his birth same 2017.
    Labake dearie, from now on Songs of Victory shall always resound in your life. Affliction shall never rise a second time! Why? Because, “You are Stronger than your enemies” in Jesus name.


    • Ounje January 21, 2018 / 3:32 pm

      I’m so sorry to hear this Stella. I wish I could hug you physically. I can imagine what you had to deal with with. My thought and prayers are with you right now. In Jesus name affliction will not rise again


  24. Mysses Lafunky January 20, 2018 / 8:29 am

    Wow! Psalm 124 came straight to my mind for you when I read this. May the Lord compensate you in Jesus name. You shall sing songs of victory.

    Psalms 124:1-8 (NKJV) A Song of Ascents. Of David. “If it had not been the Lord who was on our side,” Let Israel now say-–
    “If it had not been the Lord who was on our side, When men rose up against us,
    Then they would have swallowed us alive, When their wrath was kindled against us;
    Then the waters would have overwhelmed us, The stream would have gone over our soul;
    Then the swollen waters Would have gone over our soul.”
    Blessed be the Lord, Who has not given us as prey to their teeth.
    Our soul has escaped as a bird from the snare of the fowlers; The snare is broken, and we have escaped.
    Our help is in the name of the Lord, Who made heaven and earth.


    • Ounje January 21, 2018 / 3:30 pm

      Amen in Jesus name. Thank you very much for this


  25. Salewa. January 31, 2018 / 9:06 pm

    I couldn’t help shedding the tears. You are a strong woman. God will continue to uphold you in Jesus name.


  26. Bimbilly February 5, 2018 / 3:37 pm

    Labake you are a very strong and sweet lady.God sure keeps his and miss you my never a dull moment friend


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